To the ancients, this was a status for a man to ritually enter, to be mentored at, guided, taught, and then celebrated for reaching. If you know how to look, you’ll see that your voice, your identity, and your sense of individuality was there all along, waiting for you to have the insight to recognize it, the self-respect to know you’re worth taking on the role as a man you know you could be, and the will to care enough to take charge of the responsibility, devotion, discipline, and passion to handle that. You might even give these men a name: “alpha males.” It might “rock the boat” at work, or in your relationship or marriage, or cause your family to criticize you.īut you sense that these other men are somehow…Īnd you wonder, or wish, or hope that it doesn’t have to be that way – you, as the “outsider” on life, on really “feeling alive.” And part of you is jealous of them because you know that deep down, although you want to be as free as they are to be themselves, you just can’t.

The guys who seem to always say the right things to women to get their interest, even if what they say is a bit “off color” or “inappropriate.” They seem to change jobs with ease, and make friends even easier. You know, the guys who seem to “shoot their mouths off” and yet never get in trouble for it. Your sense of pride, your sense of shame, your sense of permission to be who you want to be, say what you really feel and do what you feel is right.īut something holds you back from really living with this sense of freedom that you see some other men enjoy. something that has more to do with ALL OF IT – your overall experience of who you are, how people treat you, and how you treat yourself… And while it can be applied to two different areas of life – WOMEN and WORK – if you came to this page possibly wondering about something deeper than either area of life as a man… It is the latest of the latest in my overall strategies and tactics of BEING A MAN, and will be material you can IMMEDIATELY go out and use in your life. Way back and thought about all-new models of psychology for this one, then I STARTED FROM SCRATCH in designing it. For this training program, I stepped back.

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